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The Unstuck Record

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Depressed Woman

If I were to describe my life up until now, the two words that I would use are “stuck record.” You are probably asking yourself how a person’s life can be compared to a stuck record. I cannot speak for anyone else, but looking back on my life, there were several things that caused my “record” to become stuck.

As a child I lived in an extremely dysfunctional home environment filled with some very unhealthy and dangerous behaviors. Those behaviors eventually carried forward into my adult years. Knowing of no other solution to cope with the problems that I faced in life, I continued to exhibit the behaviors and practices that had become ingrained in me. Thus, I remained a victim of my circumstances, and because of my unhealthy practices and behaviors, I became addicted to drugs, found myself in environments and unhealthy relationships that were abusive, and I used sex as a tool to boost my self-esteem. I lived my life caught in a vicious spin cycle of repeating the same practices and behaviors over and over, perhaps expecting different results each time, but in reality, my life became nothing more than a cycle of insanity. It was obvious that living my life in that way was not serving me well, but alas, I was hopelessly stuck.

In order to get unstuck, I had to start taking complete responsibility for my actions, and realize that only I could pick up the needle off the “record” and substitute that worn out “record” with a different one. Not only did I need to change the stuck “record,” but I also realized that a change in the music choices that I had become accustomed to listening to was also in order.

You might ask, “Was it easy to get rid of my old music collection and start building a new one?” Absolutely not! However, if you want the “record” in your life to become unstuck, you might have to go through your collection and throw out some of the old music that you have listened to – some of the old behaviors and practices that have made your life toxic and miserable – and start building a brand new library of music that will help move your life forward. The heart of the matter is this, YOU are the one who must make the decision to quit being a stuck record!

Starting Over Again – A New Music Collection

Ways to Get Unstuck

Throughout my life, my behavioral patterns and attitude have been based on an unhealthy and poisonous music collection. The “music” that I was listening to created a realm of negativity in my life, and was literally destroying me.  I had sold my heart and soul to toxic “lyrics” that either my mind was filled with as a child, or that I had stored in my memory as the years passed. I discovered that I could not get a new “music collection” until I had completely removed the old negative and toxic lyrics that were playing over and over in my mind. I had to retire the old artists that were enabling unhealthy behaviors which caused me to devalue myself, as well as relationships with other people.

I will be the first to admit that it is not easy to deprogram myself from listening to old lyrics that have never helped me in my life. Albeit, in order for me to develop a “normal,” healthy life, I know that I need to get rid of the old records and CDs in my life, change my environment, and revolutionize my way of thinking about myself and others. In order for me to evolve into the woman who I am meant to be, I need to throw out the old music collection and start a new collection – new friends, thoughts, attitudes, gestures, and ideas – that will help me to develop a new character within myself. I have to start listening to new artists whose song lyrics will help me grow physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

There are three important keys to starting a new music collection – honesty, open-mindedness, and a willingness to do so. The million dollar question that begs an answer is, “How eager are you to start listening to new artists that have better ideas and words of wisdom to impart that you have not been able to obtain before?”

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
April 10, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

I have a double major in sociology and psychology and a minor in communications. I was before a licensed addictions counselor in a treatment center up until recently. Due to a drastic series of some life-changing events, I now live in Hawaii and I am going back to school for my master degree in sociology.

I am a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter day Saints and have been a member since 26 March 2011.

My interests are furthering my education and spending time with my partner and her friends and eventually becoming active in the LGBT Community here in Hawaii, and doing some addictions counseling work within that Community. I love to read, write, and hang out at the beach.

Do Not Devalue Others

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Woman Taken in Adultery

Throughout the course of my life, I have been devalued by many people, including my own parents, and to this day I continue to devalue not only myself, but others as well. I have come to realize that I am in no place to devalue myself, let alone others, for we are all fearfully and wonderfully made.

It is clear that discrimination against people because of their sexual orientation has all but become common place in our nation today. However, the fact remains that God is a God of inclusivity and not exclusivity, and that He will reward those who diligently seek Him.

Just because a person may not fit into the mold of what we or society may believe as “normal,” it does not give us a poetic license to devalue that person. Likewise, if our opinions differ from that of another person, we should not devalue that person and make them feel as though they are inferior or that their opinions are inconsequential.

It amazes me that some people who profess that they are followers of Jesus Christ, are some of the worse offenders of devaluing people. For example, let us examine the account of the woman who was found  guilty of adultery as recorded in John 8:3-7:

And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst, they say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

The account goes on to tell us that after the Master had given His response, those who would otherwise be this woman’s accusers, drop their stones and went their way realizing that because of the conviction in their own sinful hearts, they were in no place to devalue another. With no one but Himself and the woman remaining, He turns to her and asks, “Woman, where are those thine accusers? Hath no man condemned thee?” (John 8:10). In modern-day vernacular, the question might be asked, “Where are those who have attempted to devalue you? Where have they gone?”

We must spend our lives edifying people instead of being quick to devalue them. Every person is a child of God. Thus, they deserve to be treated with self-worth, respect, and human dignity. We should be more inclusive and less exclusive in our thinking and treatment of others. We should heed the words spoken by the Master. Said He, “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again” (Matthew 7:1-2). If we are not careful, we may just find that our exclusivity might exclude ourselves from the Kingdom of God.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
10 April 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

I have a double major in sociology and psychology and a minor in communications. I was before a licensed addictions counselor in a treatment center up until recently. Due to a drastic series of some life-changing events, I now live in Hawaii and I am going back to school for my master degree in sociology.

I am a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter day Saints and have been a member since 26 March 2011.

My interests are furthering my education and spending time with my partner and her friends and eventually becoming active in the LGBT Community here in Hawaii, and doing some addictions counseling work within that Community. I love to read, write, and hang out at the beach.

Start Being A Victor

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I just read something that has a very profound meaning to me personally. What I read was, “Life becomes easier when you learn to accept the apology you never got.”

You may ask me, “Why is that such a profound statement?” and “How does it relate to the life experiences that you have had or are experiencing at this moment?” The answer is really quite simple. I am a victim of severe childhood sexual abuse which included being forced to watch satanic rituals performed by my father and his minions. I know that I will never get an apology from my father or any of his minions for the trauma that they have caused in my life. Nevertheless, I can choose to stop acting like a victim and eventually become a victor through my Heavenly Father by accepting the fact that no matter how gory the experiences might have been, He has a purpose and plan for my life. He is the One who can turn the gory experiences and the details of those experiences into something beautiful which will ultimately bring Him the glory.

I have found that it is no longer necessary for me to have to bear the burden of all the past experiences in my life, nor do I have to live with feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse. It is time for me to stop being the victim and to stop focusing on all of things that I missed out on because of being robbed of a “normal” life.

I need to abandon the old attitude that “the world owes me something,” because the truth of the matter is that no one owes me anything. However, I do owe it to my Heavenly Father to live my life as an example of what He can do in and through me. I know that He has a work for me to do, therefore I no longer have the time to act like a victim, nor do I have the time or energy to live my life in the shadows of others. I realize that now is the time for me to start being a victor and accepting myself for who I am in spite of my inadequacies and deficiencies, and come into being the Real Woman that my Heavenly Father wants for His glory and His victory.

It dawned on me that I am the master of my destiny and that life is exactly what I make it. I can make it tough on myself by continuing to not accept myself and my situation, or I can start owning up to my responsibility and being the Karlyn Kay Stebbins that my Heavenly Father expects of me. He has seen me through so much in my life and has delivered me. I now realize that I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus, and I CAN be a victor instead of a victim of earthly circumstances and Satan’s purposes.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
8 April 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

I have a double major in sociology and psychology and a minor in communications. I was before a licensed addictions counselor in a treatment center up until recently. Due to a drastic series of some life-changing events, I now live in Hawaii and I am going back to school for my master degree in sociology.

I am a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter day Saints and have been a member since 26 March 2011.

My interests are furthering my education and spending time with my partner and her friends and eventually becoming active in the LGBT Community here in Hawaii, and doing some addictions counseling work within that Community. I love to read, write, and hang out at the beach.

A Letter of Self-Reflection

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Writing a Letter

This is a different type of post in that what you are about to read is a personal letter of self-reflection which was written by guest writer, Karlyn Kay Stebbins. I want to personally thank her for allowing “Morsels of Bread” to share this letter with our audience. It is hoped that this letter will help someone who may be going through a struggle in life at this time to never give up, or give in, but to keep pressing forward. There is light at the end of a seemingly long and dark tunnel.

Karlyn’s Introduction to the Letter You are About to Read:

I had a tumultuous childhood. My very first memory is being three years old and my father molesting me. It got increasingly worse as the years went by. By the age of six, my father put me into a child pornography network, and by the time I was fourteen years old, he sold me to a pimp. I continued in that lifestyle until seven years ago when I ended up in jail weighing only eighty-seven pounds. Throughout the entire ordeal, I have been close to death’s door many times. I knew that if I didn’t turn my life around I would finally end up dead. In the last seven years, I have gotten an education and graduated with a double major and minor. I was also baptized a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of the latter-day Saints on 26 March 2011. My life is slowly is coming together in God’s time.

Karlyn’s Letter Exactly as She Wrote It:

Dear Karlyn,

I know that you hate yourself for what you were forced to do and who and what you became as a result of the drug and prostitution world . You were scandalous and you put up with a lot in your childhood and adulthood. You put up with rape and being stabbed and left for dead and you also witnessed other many murders in your life and felt guilty about it and you suffer from survivors guilt and you carry it around with you to the point of attempting suicide 32 times and pronounced dead on arrival once. You bounced back and came back when you had a choice of dying or coming back. God has given you the same Choice twice and you came back because you know that you have a great and mighty purpose in this life. You have seen Jesus Christ Himself and you have seen Satan yourself so therefore you have seen two spectrum of the coin that’s more then what anybody sees. Instead of looking at your losses focus in on what your purpose is and go find it because it is not feeling like a victim and scared get out of your house and quit imprisoning yourself with other people’s guilt and shame and remorse because it’s not yours to carry! Set yourself free to be just you because you are a very special daughter of a loving God. Keep working hard on yourself and it will surely pay off. Furthermore quit hating yourself and Give yourself a pat on the back for what you have gone through and survived and be proud of who and what you really are and quit trying to please people to feel ok. All of them days are over now and has been for quite awhile so stop tripping yourself up with others nonsense and quit internalizing your predators ideas and the brainwashing that they fed you. You are so much better than that. Free yourself from self hatred and free yourself from others ideas. It doesn’t matter! Stop and give you a fair chance and you is what matters it’s not what others thinks. This is about Karlyn Kay Stebbins and not about what others has told you or done to you but it’s what you can do for yourself and stop hating yourself because your growth and development is slower so what! No one has gone through what you have had to so what about them and comparing yourself to other people and their situation because you are you and your situation is unique like you are so get over feeling like you are less then in fact you are a hero because you survived and beat the odds and still are beating the odds! From today I give myself permission to start loving myself and giving myself a much needed break from others and their ideas and etc,but to go on and keep developing myself and to start taking care of myself and start taking actions to start liking myself because I am a likeable person. The reason why you don’t like yourself is because you feel like you don’t belong but you do so start belonging and liking yourself for you will not regret it.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
March 03,2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

The Six D’S Of Satan…

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Scriptures clearly teach us that Satan has a three-fold purpose and that is “to steal, and to kill, and to destroy” (see John 10:10). The Apostle Paul in his epistle to the Ephesians also taught us, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places” (Ephesians 6:12). Therefore, as Paul also exhorts, we should “Neither give place to the devil” (Ephesians 4:27).

From certain things that I have experienced in my life, I am keenly aware that Satan is alive and well, and that he is crafty and operates through deception. In fact, there are actually six D’s that can be associated with Satan – Deception, Doubt, Discouragement, Diversion, Defeat, and Delay. I have spent my entire life struggling with each of these 6 D’s in one form or another. Satan has tried many times to kill me by taking control of my mind, body, and even my very soul. He has relentlessly tried to defeat me in every area of my life, but I have learned that the grace and tender mercies of the Lord are far more powerful than any attack that Satan can hurl at me. It is because of the Lord’s amazing grace and His tender mercies that I am alive today, and instead of walking in the darkness that once surrounded my life, I am now walking in the glorious light of the Holy Spirit.

The Apostle Paul in his treatise to the Saints at Ephesus taught, “Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil” (Ephesians 6:11). And so, we are to put on the full armor of God, “Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices” (2 Corinthians 2:11).

The 6 D’s that I have mentioned are the wiles of the devil. I cannot express strongly enough the importance of not being ignorant of Satan’s tactics to defeat you. So, please put on the armor of God and live and walk in His glorious light. The reality is that you are either walking with Satan in darkness, or you are walking with Christ in the light. You cannot do both. Darkness and light cannot dwell together. It is an impossibility!

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 20, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

Life’s Various Platforms

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Build Your Life on a Solid Foundation

There are political platforms on which our country stands and bases its principles of governance to support enacted laws. There are also other platforms on which people build their lives such as religion, friends, social media, marriages, and relationships with various people. We put a lot of trust and confidence in various platforms in our lives, but when those platforms begin to collapse, we find that we begin to lose our footing and our safety nets are not as secure as we thought.

The one sure platform or foundation upon which we can build our lives is the Lord Jesus Christ. In the Old Testament in 2 Samuel 22:32-34, David exhorts, “For who is God, save the Lord? And who is a rock, save our God? God is my strength and power: and he maketh my way perfect. He maketh my feet like hinds’ feet: and setteth me upon my high places.” Hannah, in singing praises to the Lord, exclaimed, “There is none holy as the Lord: for there is none beside thee: neither is there any rock like our God” (1 Samuel 2:2). And David further exclaims, “He only is my rock and my salvation; he is my defence; I shall not be greatly moved” (Psalm 62:2).

Life is full of constant changes on many levels and platforms. Jesus Christ is Our Rock, and if we anchor our lives to the Rock, the strong winds of adversity that begin to blow, or the storms that begin to rage cannot shake us. Popular opinions will have no immediate effect on the decisions that we make. And as we face day-to-day challenges, we will not find ourselves always having to pull ourselves up from the ashes and brush away the rubble from platforms which have their foundations built upon the sand, “And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it” (Matthew 7:27).

In my life I have stood on various platforms and have been shaken because of the many uncertainties connected with them. However, there are no uncertainties with the Lord Jesus Christ. For, “He is the Rock, his work is perfect: for all his ways are judgment: a God of truth and without iniquity, just and right is he” (Deuteronomy 32:4).

Until we meet again friends, keep your eye on the prize!

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 21, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

Storms in Life

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The Storms of Life

We all face those times in our lives when the dark storm clouds seem to roll on for an eternity, the clap of the accompanying thunder is ever deafening, and the brilliant lightning is blinding. There are those times in each of our lives when it seems that the storms will never dissipate and the sun will never shine again leaving us feeling melancholy and forlorn.

I have been through many storms in my life in which I could not apprehend the slightest possible way that I could embrace any sense of serenity to return some type of normalcy to my life. It has always been during those moments in my life that the gale force winds of adversity tend to rock my foundation and alter my course causing utter turmoil, chaos, and confusion. Nevertheless, through it all, I am constantly reminded that our Heavenly Father is not the author of chaos and confusion. He is a God of peace and order. He is El Shaddai, “God Almighty.” He is El Elyon, “the Most High God.” He is El Roi, “the God Who Sees.” And He is also El Yisrael, “the God of Israel.”

Some of you are swimming upstream against the current at this very moment, or the turbulent waves of life are tossing your ship hither and yon , and there are storm clouds overhead, but take heart in knowing that He has promised never to leave us nor forsake us, and He will never give us any more than we can possibly bear. The Psalmist declares in Psalm 23:

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.

The Psalmist further exhorts in Psalm 46:1-7:

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah. There is a river, the streams whereof shall make glad the city of God, the holy place of the tabernacles of the most High. God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved: God shall help her, and that right early. The heathen raged, the kingdoms were moved: he uttered his voice, the earth melted. The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge. Selah.

So, even though there are times when we feel that there is no hope for the storms of life that we are facing (economic challenges, emotional challenges, physical or spiritual challenges), we can put our total faith and trust in Him, knowing that He is Immanuel (God With Us), and that we never have to face any storm or walk alone in this life.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 21,2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

The Tangled Webs That We Weave

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Oh what tangled webs we weave

Life can be full of deception and coercion which is caused by one powerful tool and weapon – our tongue. There is an adage which states, “A wagging tongue bites itself.” Whether we realize it or not, having an uncontrollable tongue can get us in more trouble and adverse situations than we are sometimes aware of. James speaks of this in the New Testament. In James 3:8-10 we read:

But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.

Sir Walter Scott, a Scottish novelist, poet, and biographer, is noted as having said, “Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.” I can attest to the truthfulness of this statement because when I was younger I manged to become ensnared in so many tangled webs that I am still dealing with some of the consequences of my misguided actions.

When we practice deception and coerce other people into doing things because of our lies, we cause undue and unwarranted confusion and chaos in their life. A scripture that comes to mind concerning this is found in Psalm 52:2-4:

Thy tongue deviseth mischiefs; like a sharp razor, working deceitfully. Thou lovest evil more than good; and lying rather than to speak righteousness. Selah. Thou lovest all devouring words, O thou deceitful tongue.

What those scriptures mean to me is that a liar has a very sharp tongue that can be used as a very powerful tool or weapon to deceive other people. Liars also bask in the drama and chaos (tangled webs they weave) that they create due to their devious actions. The proverbial flip side of the coin, however, is that in the end, the liar is the one who ends up all alone. Their character, credibility,  and reputation are ultimately damaged because of the tangled webs that they weave.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 14,2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

Beware of Judas

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In this life we must learn to be very wise and discerning about who we choose to call our friends. Everyone who claims to be our friend does not necessarily have our best interest at heart. There are those who seem to be our friend and confidant, but they are “Judas” in disguise. Their character is shady, and they have the gift of gab which they use to deceive and make you seem as a fool.

The psalmist speaks to the Savior knowing that one of His twelve apostles would betray Him. That disciple as we know from the narrative was Judas. The psalmist records in Psalm 41:9, “Yea, mine own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me.” I can personally relate this  type of “friend” to the experiences that I had when I was an active participant in the drug culture. The people who I thought were my friends – people who did drugs with me – ended up being nothing more than “Judas” in disguise. Once they got what they wanted, they betrayed me.

I now use extreme caution and wisdom in deciding who I can trust, and who I call my friend. I have also learned that even some people who refer to themselves as “Christians” can be deceiving. They profess one thing, but their own actions towards others, if they are not careful, can oftentimes betray the very things which they claim to profess.

So until we meet again my friends, I counsel you to use wisdom and discernment in deciding who you call your friends.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 14, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications.  She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

The Suffocating Grip of Fear

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Let Go of Fear

Life is full of new and exciting experiences that we often deprive ourselves of enjoying. You might ask, “Why would anyone do that?” I have found that the thing that often prevents me from exploring new ideas or enjoying new experiences in life is fear. That little four little word, “fear,” seems to play havoc with our lives in so many ways. It is an evil corroding thread that somehow gets woven into the fabric of our existence at different stages of our lives. If we allow it, it has the potential to put a suffocating grip on us, and cause us to end up in unfortunate circumstances which we do not want any part of. Fear is as a thief in the night. It robs us of true joy and happiness in life and prevents us from achieving our true potential.

Perhaps there is a better way. Perhaps there is a way to overcome fear in our lives. We need to have our lives built on a more firm and trustworthy foundation. That foundation is Jesus Christ. We need to learn to trust and rely on Him for EVERYTHING. The scriptures clearly teach us, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). If we are to overcome our fears and move forward with our lives, we must learn to “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths” (Proverbs 3:5,6). “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10).

If we are willing to align our lives with the will of God, and in humble obedience willingly do those things which He would have us to do, relying on and trusting Him completely, He will wash away our fears. And we will find that calamity in our lives will be replaced by serenity.

An acronym for the word “fear” is False Evidence Appearing Real. But we need not fear because the Savior Himself has promised, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” (John 14:27).

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 06, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.