The Decency of Modesty

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 Decency of Modesty

To My Reading Audience

I debated whether I should write this article because of my concern that someone will read these remarks and take things in the wrong way, and thus become offended. What I have said here is not intended to hurt or offend anyone, but rather my purpose is to shed some light on a subject which seems overlooked in some instances. The subject that I discuss here is modesty. The crux of the treatise addresses women, but the remarks could equally be applied to men, as modesty is not just for women. It is applicable for both genders. It is my sincere hope that my few brief comments will cause people to stop and think.

An Open Address

To the women of the world, please know that there are still some kind hearten, decent, respectable, honorable men out there. Every man who smiles at you, or starts a conversation with you, is not necessarily interested in taking you home and becoming intimate with you.

Be honest with yourselves. There are some of you who push the envelope to the point of almost begging and coercing a man to become promiscuous with you. From any respectable man’s point of view, that doesn’t speak very highly of your character. There are names used for women who exhibit such behaviors, and I fail to believe that any respectable woman would appreciate being referred to by one of those names. Therefore, you must learn to use a little wisdom and discernment in how you present yourselves.

It is not my intent to demean or degrade anyone, but we all know that some women flaunt their bodies and peddle their wares as if they were having some sort of auction sale with the highest bidder winning the “prize.” In those instances, they are the ones who are extending an open invitation for the troubles that are surely to follow.

Here is some friendly advice. Please take it or leave it, the choice is yours. When you get dressed, take a good long look in the mirror and be honest with yourself about what you are wearing. What message does the way that you have decided to dress send to those who will see you? If you have to second guess whether or not what you are wearing is proper or not – GO CHANGE!

You cannot expect to dress like a “woman of the night” and not expect some men, not all, to treat you as the same. Keep in mind that we also live in a day and age when we have almost literally returned to the land of Sodom and Gomorrah, and so the way that you dress may also capture other women’s attention who may have some interest in you for their pleasures as well. Think about that. Is that what you really want?

The way you act and present yourself can often dictate the type of crowd that you wish to associate with. Your speech can also betray you and send the wrong message to those who hear it. In short, you cannot play with fire and not expect to get burned!

Here is perhaps an important news flash for some of you – not all men appreciate women who have no self-respect and are constantly parading their half-naked bodies in front of them, or who incessantly try to entice them to enter their lairs. Thank God for honorable men – men of integrity and character.

My point is simply this – RESPECT BEGINS WITH YOU. You need to have self-control and self-respect. If you enjoy being treated like a “woman of the evening” then this message is not for you. Please feel free to ignore it in its totality. Otherwise, please realize that you are a person of worth – not some rag doll, or the object of some person’s perversions – but a human being, with a beautiful soul.

In closing may I just say, gentlemen, lest you have become too comfortable in accepting the remarks that I have made here, let’s put ourselves into this equation. Modesty is not just for the women! The same things that I have said of the women applies equally to us. Just reverse the gender in the above comments and apply the same rules.

Each of us are a person of worth. We must learn to have self-control, self-esteem, and self-respect. We are all special sons and daughters of a loving Heavenly Father. How others treat us and see us, starts within ourselves.

Maidens of Worth

2 thoughts on “The Decency of Modesty

    crazyfitmommy said:
    Tuesday, 19 May2015 at 17:19

    This is such a controversial topic lately, and it makes me sad to see how many people really don’t understand or appreciate modesty at all. I became a convert to the church in 2012, and before that this post probably would have made me angry — modesty is unpopular and sometimes inconvenient (I still miss working out in tank tops), and that was all the information I needed. My testimony of Jesus Christ has given me a completely different understanding of the role my body should play in my life, and how I should appreciate and protect it. I hope posts like this can start to help people understand how and why they should respect their bodies. Thank you for this post! 🙂


    outstandingbachelor said:
    Saturday, 9 May2015 at 02:46

    Thank you for this timely post.


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