It is always easier to view another person’s life, and to oftentimes make rash judgments about that person, as an outsider looking in. From where we sit and the view which we have, we unfortunately only get the tip of the iceberg as far as really getting to know the person, and only a thimble full, if that, of knowing what makes that person the way that they are.
Every person’s life is uniquely different. We cannot make unmerited judgments about a person, or adequately vocalize our opinions about how we think that person should be living their life, when we do not know, nor fully understand all the ramifications and consequences that govern and surround that person’s life.
We have no God-given right to assume anything about a person until we have at least taken the time to get to know that person. In getting to know that person we may need to close our mouths and open our ears and listen to what that person has to say realizing that his or her life experiences are not necessarily comparable to our own. In other words there is a time to speak and a time to keep silent. There is a time to be the voice in a conversation and a time to be the attentive listening ears. There is a time to be the teacher and impart knowledge, and there is a time to be the student who is taught and takes careful notes.
In order to gain even a miniscule amount of understanding another person’s life we need to try walking a mile in their shoes, and view the world through their eyes, and then perhaps we will not be so quick to make undue judgments or formulate absurd opinions about that person.
We must learn to respect and treat everyone as we would want to be treated and respected. If we would not want other people to make hasty judgments or formulate undue opinions about us, then we should not do so to them.
~ Keith Lionel Brown