FIRESIDE CHAT – Saturday Afternoon, 7 Sept. 2013
On Behalf of the Single Adults of the World
Hello and welcome! Come join me by the fire for my weekly fireside chat. During the course of these brief fireside discussions, I will share some of my random thoughts about varied subjects of interest. Many of these chats will contain knowledge that I have obtained from the many lessons that I have learned on my journey in life. I invite you to share your comments, in a civil tone – both negative and positive. Please note that all derogatory comments will be deleted. Thanks for joining me. It is great to have you here!
I arose this morning with the strong impression to speak for just a few moments on behalf of single adults, of which I am one. Some of which I will say may aggravate or even irritate some people, and so at the offset, I humbly apologize if I offend anyone’s sensitivities. However, I strongly feel that someone needs to take a stand and speak up and dispel some of the myths that some people seem to believe about single adults.
I will begin by speaking about the family. Just because there are those of us who are single, it does not follow that we do not have a family. In fact, each of us is the product of a family – we are the sons and daughters of mothers and fathers, and unless we are the only child in the family, we are also the brothers and/or sisters of a sibling and/or siblings. Just like those who are married, there are many of us who are single, who have great demands placed on our time by our families. Just as those who are married, there are times when we as singles are called upon to put aside other things and give our families our full, undivided attention. And we should not be looked down upon or frowned upon, or treated as being selfish and indifferent for making our families our top priority, simply because someone else thinks that there are more important things that we should give our attention to. May I go on record as stating emphatically; that our families are just as important to us as singles, as everyone else feels their family is to them.
With that being said, I would like to dispel the myth that those who are married and perhaps have families of their own, are far more busy that any single adult could ever imagine. First of all, I believe that before a person makes such a rash statement, he really needs to walk a mile in the moccasins of many single adults. May I also say, that oftentimes statements such as that are often made because there are some people who have long since forgotten what it was like to live the life of a single adult.
To set the record straight if I may, we as single adults are just as busy, and in some cases, even busier than some who are married and have families of their own. May I also point out the often forgotten and overlooked fact, that there are many single adults who are single moms and single fathers who are doing the best they can to take care of their families. Furthermore, there are many singles who work two (and I know some who are working three) jobs to make ends meet. Therefore, as singles we are putting just as many hours into the day as anyone else. Our schedules are also full and demanding with all the things that we need to do in a day’s time. I would like to dispel the myth that as singles we somehow magically have an overabundance of free time. I can almost guarantee you that a majority of singles can tell you that nothing could be further from the truth. We do not have as much free time as some people seem to think that we have.
Whereas those who are married are often blessed to have the help in their home from father, mother, and children to get things done, we as single adults carry the burden of completing daily tasks – more times than not, all alone. We have to clean our houses, do the grocery shopping, pay the bills, run the errands, and work at our jobs, the same as everyone else. Some singles as I have mentioned also have the added responsibility of raising and nurturing children. At the end of our day we are just as tired and exhausted as anyone else. Therefore, please forgive our trespasses if we should want to sometime have a little “me” time to do some of the things that we enjoy doing, or to lay on our couches with our feet propped up and enjoy a movie or a sports game on television, or even, dare I say, close our eyes and get a little rest. Please forgive us for being so selfish to even think that we are deserving of such “luxury” in life.
May I also set the record straight that just because we are single, we are not everyone’s pack mules or beasts of burden. Just because we are single does not mean that we should always be the ones to have to burden the “lion share” of the load. Our wagons should not always be the ones that are weighed down because others feel that they can lighten their load by making our load heavier. We as single adults also need someone to help lighten the load that we carry at times.
With that being said, may I close and emphatically state that we, as single adults, are first, human beings. If we cut ourselves, we bleed. If we are upset, we cry. We are prone to get irritated, frustrated, aggravated, and angry at times. We have the same feelings, the same emotions as everyone else. Life in general, at times, is no fairer to us as single adults than it is to anyone else. We face trials and temptations. We sometimes carry heavy burdens. We face the same fears and challenges that many others face in life, with the big difference being, that as single adults we oftentimes face all of our fears and challenges – alone.